After you have had a few dates with someone and you think there is a possibility that this relationship might be worth developing further, you can start to ask more serious questions about their childhood, family, job etc.

Eventually the relationship might progress to where the really tough questions can and must be asked. Like “have you ever slept with someone without using a condom” or “how much debt do you have”? Unfortunately there is no easy way to bring up these questions. Or is there…

Recently, I received a copy of Michael Webb’s newest book, 1000 Questions for Couples: What you absolutely must know about the person you are with. This book is going to make those difficult questions much easier to ask.

The questions begin off easy like “Has anyone dear to you died? How did you handle it” and “About what things are you most selfish.” They slowly progress (just like your relationship should) until you get to those questions that you simply can’t avoid if you are looking to commit your life to.

There are questions on drug addictions, abuse, child rearing, finances and lots of questions about sex. The biggest benefit I found was that because these questions were coming from a book, it didn’t feel like “I” was asking them.

A special bonus that I really liked was the option to get 3-5 of the book’s questions emailed to me each day. That way I could forward the questions on to my beloved and we could each read over them and forward the answers to each other that night. I can see where this would be very valuable for those in long distance relationships. It sure worked for me.

While there are a lot of questions in this book that are crucial for couples in the dating stage, there are also many questions that are useful for people who are already married. If you value your relationship, I urge you to ask these 1000 Questions for Couples.