Soul Mates
Everybody wants Soul Mates. At the start of a relationship, in the "bliss" period. John Mayer once described it as the time you show each other your best movies. You imagine that soul mates is exactly what you have found. Over time, if couples are not working hard on their relationship they can easily drift from being soul mates into being other kind of mates.
Let’s take a short look at these levels of soul mates.
1. Soul Mates
Whether you believe in soul mates or not, this is the level most of us desire. Connection is at a very deep level, there are certain non negotiables that you both agree on and passions are high. It’s a fantastic place to be but it does take work.
2. Life Mates
This is another level that can happen over time . Some of the passion and luster wears off but the couple still hold to each other. There is still a genuine love and care for each other, just not the high passion.
3. Room Mates
As mentioned earlier it is so easy for couples to drift from soul mates into room mates. Very often the drift is not fast or intentional. "I didn’t mean it to happen" is often heard…..I guess that’s why it is called a drift. Couples get along like room mates do….There is friendship but the passion is gone. It will be intentional journey for both parties to get back to the soul mates level.
4. Cell Mates
Obviously this is the worst level of relationship to be in. Couples feel like they have been sentenced to 20 years with hard labour. Trapped in a situation that neither can get out of. In spite of this couples do settle for less and continue to stay in these loveless and often hurtfull situations. There is a “until death do us part” attitude hoping the former comes before the latter.
